EP 23: How to Find YOUR Voice

(And Stop Trying to Sound Like Everyone Else)

Have you ever wondered if you’ve actually found your voice?

Maybe you’ve spent years taking lessons, practicing, studying, listening to other singers, and trying to improve, but somewhere along the way, you started wondering:

What does MY voice actually sound like when I’m not trying to sound like someone else?

In this episode, I’m talking about my own journey of finding my voice—and what I wish I had understood much earlier.

In this episode, we explore:

Why finding your voice is about more than vocal technique
The difference between developing your instrument and trying to erase what makes it unique
Why “non-traditional” vocal qualities can actually become your superpowers
How comparison can interfere with discovering your own sound
Why curiosity and play are essential to artistic growth
How quiet and stillness help you hear your own inner wisdom
Why creating safe spaces for exploration can unlock your creativity
How to begin developing a deeper relationship with your voice

PLUS!!

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Discovering Your Vocal Superpowers

Try this journaling exercise whenever you’re feeling discouraged, stuck, or unsure about your voice.

1. What do I genuinely like about my voice?
What do I feel proud of?

2. What positive comments have I received about my voice that have stayed with me?

3. What negative feedback about my voice has stayed with me?

4. Which of those comments actually feel true to me? Which ones feel imposed?

5. What qualities of my voice feel most “me” when I’m relaxed and unguarded?

Think beyond technique. Consider tone, emotional expression, phrasing, presence, texture, color, etc.

6. What have I labeled as flaws?

For each one, ask:

How might this actually be a strength?
What does this quality allow me to express that someone else might not be able to?

7. If I stopped trying to sound like anyone else, what do I imagine my voice would sound like?

And:

How would it feel in my body?
How would it change my relationship to singing?

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5 Ways to Start Finding YOUR Voice

1. Dabble in other art forms.

2. Don’t learn songs by listening to recordings of other artists. 

3. Don't compare.

4. Spend time being quiet.

5. Spend time in safe spaces for exploration.

📚 Mentioned in This Episode

Making Play a Part of Practice — Heidi Moss Erickson
This article explores the role of play, experimentation, curiosity, and discovery in a singer’s practice—and why creating space for exploration can help us become more expressive, connected artists.

Read “Making Play a Part of Practice” by Heidi Moss Erickson

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