Ep 29: How to Receive a Compliment as a Singer
How to Receive a Compliment as a Singer
Have you ever finished singing, someone tells you how beautiful you sounded, and your immediate response is:
“Really? I thought I sounded awful.”
Do you launch into a detailed explanation of everything that went wrong?
Yep. I’ve done this more times than I can count.
In this episode, we’re talking about why it can be surprisingly hard for singers to receive a compliment and why learning to do so can actually be part of learning to let yourself be seen.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why singers can be so much better at noticing what went wrong than what went right
- Why you don’t have to agree with a compliment to receive it
- The difference between humility and self-rejection
- Why being complimented can actually feel vulnerable when you’re used to hiding or shrinking
- How to stop arguing with someone else’s experience
- A simple 3-second practice for letting a compliment land
- What to say when someone compliments your singing
- How curiosity can replace the urge to immediately dismiss praise
- A simple 7-day Compliment Challenge to practice being seen
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